Dr. Obari Cartman | Age 37 | Father of 2
Being a father in one word?
Fulfilling
There's no blueprint for "good" parenting/fathering, in what way(s) do you think you could improve as a father?
I have two sons. I spend more time with my older son than my youngest. It's not fair to him. I would do better about that.
What are you most proud of in terms of what you believe you’ve done right as a dad?
With my oldest son, I feel very proud of how present I've been with his whole life. More than just spending time, just being around him and doing activities, so much of that has intentionally been all about enjoying his presence. So often the activity has just been him. Not multitasking, not entertaining him, just being with him.
What scares you most about the world our kids are growing up in?
The lack of wisdom in the information age. The ease of access to technology and convenience. Global warming.
Most important life lessons that you want your kids to learn? (list or discuss up to 3)
1) Must actively pursue their purpose, and not succumb to other people's plans for them. 2) Enjoy the process. 3) Service is your oxygen tax
Insights or words of encouragement for new or expecting fathers?
Take your time, go slow, be steady and consistent. Have fun. Communicate often, clearly and honestly. The health and well being of your child's mother directly impacts the health and well-being of yall's child. Document as much as you while still being present to the beautiful and challenging moments.
