Santana M. Williams | Age 45 | Father of 2
Being a father in one word?
GREATER.
There's no blueprint for "good" parenting/fathering, in what way(s) do you think you could improve as a father?
Improve on my patience. As a father, you instinctively want to shield and protect them from the mistakes you made. Of course, they don't always heed the warning! It tries the patience but sometimes the best lessons are hardest learned.
What are you most proud of in terms of what you believe you’ve done right as a dad?
I hope they have a certain level of confidence, buoyed by the fact that "Dad has my back". You traverse life differently when you KNOW you are loved.
Anything about fatherhood that you dislike?
The anxiety. The anxiety of not knowing if you got it right.
What scares you most about the world our kids are growing up in?
I know as a country we have come a long way. However, I still fear there is so much "dangerous racism" hiding and pinned up that an explosion is imminent. I'd rather my generation face it rather than theirs. Actually, they may be better equipped to deal with the aftermath than us; less judgemental.
Most important life lessons that you want your kids to learn? (list or discuss up to 3)
1. To trust God. It's easier said than done.
2. Don't judge a book by the cover. (And read many books)
3. To find a way to do what makes them happy. Find your passion!
Any insights or words of encouragement for new or expecting fathers?
Be the father YOUR child needs. Every person is different and so is every child. Yes, they arrive that way.
Anything else that you'd like to add or share about being a Black father?
Have fun!
